That's absolutely great! I don't know why, but it's great! I guess it's because you decided to directly let people know rather than let the gossip flow. Nos
Well, that was part of my reason for doing the letters.
I actually sent it to some people in other congregations and within our own KH with the express purpose of them gossiping. They are known to be Chatty Cathys. I love the fact that I could rely on them to be poor Christians and to start gossiping and spread a grain of truth about my leaving before it was announced in our own congregation. Gotta love it!!!
Another Paul...... I hope it doesn't cause you too many problems. Paul Gadget
You?ll always be gadget to me. With a little Homer mixed in for good measure
So, at least four people will continue to be open to you. That is good news. There may be hope for them too. J
Well the two that talked to me after getting the letter weren?t a big surprise. They are still semi-active JW?s, but they have also read CoC. It amazes me that they are still in, but then again, they have a large family in the Borg and therefore our situations are different. It would be easy to judge them in my previous Dubby mindset, but I leave the judging to someone else now. If they see fit to stay, then that?s their stand for now and I would never hold it against them.
One good thing about them still being in was that, even though I had no idea that they had CoC, I knew deep down that they had reservations about the authority structure in the Borg. Knowing this, I approached one of them a couple of months ago and pussy-footed around, dropping hints about our gripes RE the WTS. Enough was said that we both knew that the other had read CoC. I?m glad therefore that some stick around if only because I had someone to discuss my concerns with face to face.
I envy your guts on sending in the letter. I'm seriously considering writing one myself. Sns
It?s nice for you to say this. But to be honest, I feel it took zero courage on my part. I was just disgusted with the WTS and had to get out of it. No more courage to do what I did than to walk out of a backed-up outhouse with nasty fecal matter all over the floor. It was the natural thing to do. Staying only made me sick to my stomach.
At times I allowed myself to feel guilty for throwing all of this on my wife so quickly instead of staying in longer for her sake. At times I wonder if I could have let her know the doubts I had at a slower pace and then possibly got her out too. Unlikely, but the thought still occurs at times.
Anyways, follow your guts. Whatever you feel is best for your life is what you need to do. I talked to a few DF?d & DA?d people face to face before making my decision. I saw that they were better off, and I wanted that glorious freedom. It is sweet now to have it. It makes me giggle at times like a little girl just thinking about being free from the Borg!
They are such nice people! Congrats again for the big DA! I hope that you're wife is okay with it! Shamus
They are such nice hypocrites people!
My wife does get depressed about it at times. When we spend time together alone, things are great. When she spends time around the dubs, she comes back depressed. She is now depressed because tonight may be the big announcement. Heck, I may even get my own ?Local Special Needs? part. Wouldn?t that be exciting???
But regardless, it is going to be hard for my wife to sit there and listen to an announcement that, in her mind, is akin to a Death Penalty. I feel somewhat relived that at least the majority of the congregation knows why and can sympathize with her to a degree after the meeting and ?love-bomb? her.
Paul..I'm sorry I asked your wife to come to my house and cut my hair you sensitive little snot. As she would not come over and I no longer associate with the likes of you I was forced to wax my bikini line instead of having it professionally trimmed.
Damn you..the pain was incredible....you are really a tool of Satan, albeit a dull one.
Shotgun
P.S...Sounds like things at home are actually a little better now than they were before. Hope that lasts for you
Well shotgun, when your whole back needs to be waxed to have the hair removed off of it, ya, that?s gonna hurt.
So you went all of the way down to the bikini area, huh? Glad to hear you had the room to maneuver down there.
And don?t forget what my CO once told the congregation about Satan?s tools.
?The most frequently used tool by Satan is also the dullest.?
Seriously though, yes things are better. I hope it lasts too. We will see though if she gets another labotomy from the elders in the near future.
I find it fascinating to think about what it would have been like to disassociate myself. If I would have had a choice I would have rather disassociated myself rather than being disfellowshipped. Special K
The way I viewed the two options, it was comparable to saying, ?You can?t fire me, because I QUIT!?
Little difference in the end, but at least I got to walk out with my head held high.
our mutual friend is mailing an audio copy of that book I asked you about.
Yes, I heard. It?s nice to know that in this day and age even the illiterate can expand their knowledge base